I talk about a lot on this blog. Religion, politics, science, rambling thoughts—stuff like that. But the core of this blog is supposed to be about my journey as a woman and mom who has ADHD and Asperger’s Syndrome. It was also supposed help chronicle the journey shared with my daughter, “The Munchie.” Continue reading
I keep this reference sheet handy for those moments when I want to add a little something extra to what I’m typing. At the end, I’m also sharing an image with Facebook-specific codes for fun little extras!
HOW TO MAKE SYMBOLS WITH KEYBOARD
Hold down the Alt key, and type the numbers you see, but USE THE NUMBER PAD! Do not use the numbers across the top row of your QWERTY keyboard.
Alt + 0153….. ™… trademark symbol
Alt + 0169…. ©…. copyright symbol
Alt + 0174….. ®….registered trademark symbol
Alt + 0176 …°……degree symbol
Alt + 0177 …±….plus-or-minus sign Continue reading
Being on the autistic spectrum comes bundled with a lot of things, even if you’re considered to be “mildly” Asperger’s (or “high-functioning autistic”). One of those is SENSORY DISORDER. I capitalized it because that’s a big one.
Compared to many, my sensory issues are still mild. But when I’m stressed out or sick, those sensitivities are amplified. Right now, hearing and smell can drive me crazy. I can’t stand hearing people breathe, eat, or (in poor Xife’s case) blow their noses. Especially if there’s a sharp vibration. Those sounds are extremely agitating, even though the people who make those sounds can’t help it. Like right now, Xife is locked away in the guest/baby room blowing the heck out of his nose. He can’t help it, and I feel really bad about it, but it’s like fingernails on a chalkboard times five. If he wasn’t down the hall behind a closed door, it would be times fifty. Imagine someone scratching the soft inner side of your forearm with that fingernail over and over and over. The first few times, it’s okay. Then it’s irritating, then it gets to where you’re sure there’ll be blood, and you desperately need it to stop. Lucky for me, it just gets to the agitating level, and I can be a grownup and find a way to deal. Not so for everyone.
I’m not sharing this to embarrass Xife . I really do feel bad that he’s sick, and I don’t want to be agitated at him. Unfortunately, stress plus hormones have made this particular sensory issue twice as bad as it might be normally. This is a part of having a sensory disorder. And this is a MILD version of it. There are people have severe SD, and that one noise would cause more than agitation. Meltdowns in young kids who haven’t learned coping techniques comes to mind.
So there’s a small window into my world, and an even smaller window into what it’s like for someone who constantly has to deal with nerve-grating sensory issues. This is a random sharing, as autism and sensory disorders happen to be on my mind at the moment. I’m dealing fine with this particular event (I’m just annoyed and able to be nice to him about it), but it’s not always like that for me, and definitely not like this for others who are anything but “mild.”
Part of the reason I hesitated is that I have a tendency to lean toward not trusting flagrant GMO use (not a Monsanto fan here), and partly because I know many people who do not trust GMOs but are otherwise very rational about scientific issues. Being lumped with creationists in any way is uncomfortable, to say the least. Continue reading
Now that the Little Doctor is in kindergarten, we’re seeing a lot more of his ADHD and Asperger’s (“Aspie”) behavior. He’s in a mainstream classroom, and we are trying to help him stay there.
One of the tools his teacher uses is a rainbow behavior chart. Each student has a clothespin clip with her or his name on it. Red is at the bottom for a very stinky day, and purple is the best kind of day. If the Little Doctor has to move their clip down to yellow, orange, or red, he gets a yellow sheet in his folder that explains what color he moved down to and why. The yellow paper has been a great form of communication, and she uses it for all the kids (it started with me needing to know what TLD did naughty) when they have not-so-good days. Going home on red also involves an email or phone call.
There’s one drawback: If he comes home on green, blue, or purple, I don’t know which color. Part of the incentive plan is that he gets special snacks depending on the color. Since he has a little difficulty with the truth at times, I can’t take his word for it. I don’t know if he’s just telling me he came home on purple because he wants ice cream, or if he really did. Continue reading
This is what I shared in my Facebook status just now. I think it worth sharing…
People! Stop depending on other people to make you feel worthy. I see all these posts where people are shattered by how other people have treated them. Where they’ve been lied to, promises broken, misled, mistreated, and on and on.
If stuff like this keeps happening to you, maybe it’s because you choose to let toxic people into your life. Can you cut every toxic person out of your life? No, but you can choose not to allow them that kind of power over you. See them for who they really are, try to figure *why* they act like this, then deal accordingly.
I’ve had to cut people out of my life because of their toxicity. Continue reading
Vitriol is everywhere. Thanks to social media, everyone with an internet connection and angry opinion is free to go out and rant against everything they hate. In turn, anyone who is offended is free to respond in equal or great measure. It’s a virtual badminton of negativity that grows exponentially.
It used to be that our parents taught us never to discuss religion or politics in polite company. I always thought that was silly. How could new things happen if no one took the time to talk? How could society progress and change for the better if the tough issues were suppressed in the name of politeness? Continue reading
I wonder if what happened to the Little Doctor yesterday will make him realize that hitting is wrong. He’s a kindergartener who didn’t have much preschool, and he we believe has ADHD and Asperger’s Syndrome. After a good first week of school, he spent the next few weeks getting into trouble for touching, hitting, and pushing other kids. As far as I know, he hasn’t actually hurt anyone or had any specific targets. His outbursts have been due to frustration and sensory overload, and we’ve all been on top of it. This past week has seen some good improvement, and we’ve scheduled a domain meeting (kind of a pre-IEP, or information gathering).
So…Yesterday on the bus, he got clobbered in the face. Continue reading
One of the communities I follow on Facebook is the Autism Women’s Network. Today, they posted a question to women on the spectrum who got violent as children or teens:
If you became violent as a child/teen, what helped and what made it worse?
Do you have advice for parents whose children respond with violence after becoming upset?
This was the blog post shared: http://emmashopebook.com/2013/09/10/when-upset-turns-violent/
Well, I don’t have expert advice other than what I’ve been given by the therapist who is helping us with my son’s outbursts. But I do have experience, first hand, with this. Here is what I posted in response to their question, and I hope it helps:
For my sister (and for me to a lesser extent), this was an issue. Our mom ALWAYS escalated. She didn’t know better. She was doing what she thought was right, and this ended in bruises on both sides, and with my sister often pinned to the floor with our mom on top. By that point in confrontation, that *had* to be done because my sister would’ve hurt someone or herself. But *before* that, it could have been deescalated by simply LEAVING HER ALONE. To this day, my sister firmly says that is what she needed. I believe that’s how she handles her daughters when they flare up, too. Get them to a safe space and leave them alone. Continue reading
I’ve had a growing sense that the population at large tends to dismiss the voices of people who have various neuro-differences. It’s made me pause to wonder if being so open about having Asperger’s and ADHD is such a good thing after all. Do people really listen to what I have to say, or do they nod and smile because I talk and write about things all the time?
People in my daily real life tend to tune me out because I’m constantly talking about everything under the sun. I’m sure it can be hard to tell what is and isn’t important when the stream hardly shuts off, but that doesn’t make what I say any less valuable than what other people say. Continue reading