Why It’s Hard to Focus if You Have ADHD, Autism or Asperger’s Syndrome

Snake mosaic

Snake Mosaic

It’s hard to focus. This isn’t news. The why of it has baffled me. Suddenly, it hit me: It is difficult for a person to focus when they’re getting fragmented information from their environment.

I came to this realization in a massive “Oh, duh!” moment a little bit ago, and it rings terribly true. Take this bit of art, for example: There’s a picture there, but it’s fragmented. You have to look at it a while to get it. If you get it right away, kudos, you’re lucky. (And yes, this is my digital painting!)

It’s like that with my environment, especially when there’s a lot going on. I can only focus on so many points, and with my mind wanting to take in everything that might be important, it’s hard to filter what is and is not. This is what contributes to information overload. It involves all of the senses, but mostly sight and sound. Throw in intangibles, like a to-do list a mile long, and it’s no wonder productivity plummets.

I imagine that for a “normal” person, a scene comes together seamlessly. Things make sense, and what’s not important is filtered out. In my case, that filter is faulty. Those little details that don’t matter have a nasty habit of becoming obvious and loud. It’s worse if there is an interesting pattern or other thing about it.

It’s not that I wasn’t aware of this before. Believe me, I’ve been painfully aware of my inability to focus at times. No, the revelation is in how I am now able to share it with you.

Now that you have a better idea of the struggle to concentrate, remember it for the next time you encounter someone who is engaged in this fight. And also remember that for this person, sometimes it’s just easier to tune you out and give in to that distraction. Don’t be offended. Be patient. You might learning something.

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The Wisdom of Wisdom Teeth

I’ve been a bit out of sorts the past few days. Why? My wisdom teeth. Their time came up, and on Friday, they got uprooted. Literally.

I put this off for years. The dentist got tired of telling me to do it. At my last cleaning, he just said, “You’ll want them out when they start hurting.” He was right. When I was brushing Tuesday night, it hurt. That area had been a bit sore, but this was more. I made the appointment the next morning. And waited.

You hear horror stories about how much pain wisdom tooth extraction causes. The oral surgeon gives you the “good stuff” for recovery. Instructions are given as to foods, icing, and so on. Then… It wasn’t so bad.

Okay, it’s more sore today, but I think that’s because I sometimes clench my teeth when I’m asleep. I’m pretty sure that’s what I did last night. But overall, the pain wasn’t nearly what I expected. Eating isn’t great fun yet, but it could be far worse.

So, how does this relate to my autism blog? Well, it’s about pain, and the perception of pain.  Not to mention people mucking around with my mouth. This would have been far more difficult for me had I not been asleep for the procedure (thank you, two impacted wisdoms!). I can handle cleanings, and I went through braces (now that is a story in itself), but this is the first time in my life I had any teeth pulled.

I intend to write more on this subject later. Right now, my mouth hurts, and I really want to do some writing. I’m about 100 pages in to my steampunk fantasy, and it’s fun. So I’m going to dive into that today. At least until/unless I grab some of the Tylenol #3 the doctor gave me. We’ll see.

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Little Girl Denied Kidney Transplant Due to Mental Retardation

Amelia has been denied a kidney transplant. Why? Because she's "mentally retarded."

Amelia has been denied a kidney transplant. Why? Because she is "mentally retarded."

I am… fuming. On the outside, I’m calm. On the inside, I’m enraged. Today, I learned about a little girl named Amelia. She will need a new kidney within a year, or she’ll die. She has family members willing to donate in order to save her life.

The transplant team at Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia said NO. They have denied her ever receiving a transplant at that facility. Why? Because she is “mentally retarded.”

Yes, you read that right. Amelia’s mother, Chrissy Rivera, writes:

I begin to shake. My whole body trembles and he begins to tell me how she will never be able to get on the waiting list because she is mentally retarded.

A bit of hope. I sit up and get excited. Read more »

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On Being an Aspie Parent

Happily Eccentric LogoIt was rough at my house earlier this evening. The kids were yelling and screaming, fighting once again. Both of them have shrill screams, but The Munchie has a shriek that will curl your innards. It’s shocking to hear that high a pitch from a nine-year-old. And it hits every one of my auditory stress buttons. When that scream gets piled on the mountain of noise, it morphs into an unbearable cacophony. For some inexplicable reason, it finally hit me tonight why the yelling and screaming affect me so badly. Read more »

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Why Rick Santorum Should NEVER be President

"Rick Santorum is Coming for your Birth Control" on Salon.com

Rick Santorum (Credit: AP/Charlie Riedel)

Rick Santorum is the Republican Party’s latest shiny object. His campaign was revitalized by coming in a hair’s breadth second to Mitt Romney in the Iowa Caucuses. His relative obscurity over the past months has insulated him from a great deal of the scrutiny faced by other candidates. Now that he’s in the spotlight, he has the platform he needs to appeal to not just to the right, but the far, far right.

He went after and got the evangelical vote, appealing to conservatives of all stripes while stumping through Iowa’s counties. This tactic seems to have Read more »

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Sad Haiku

Sadly overwhelmed
Sunshine and blue skies have gone
Worry fills my eyes

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I wish that I knew what I know now – Or do I?

Rod Stewart's latest: The Best of... The Great American Songbook

Rod Stewart's latest: The Best of... The Great American Songbook

Rod Stewart’s words get stuck in my head sometimes. “I wish that I knew what I know now, when I was younger…” It happened again the other night. This time, I lay awake with my imagination at full speed. What if one day I woke up as my teen self, but with the memories and knowledge I have today?

The Conundrum 

I was a teen in the 1990s, so if that happened, I would know: about 9/11 before it happened; that the surgeon who removed my grandmother’s gallbladder nicked her small intestine and would kill her months later because nobody caught it; Read more »

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Thomas the Tank Engine and Life Lessons: Follow that track

Thomas the Tank Engine

Thomas the Tank Engine

“Look where you want to go, then follow the track that takes you there. ” ~Thomas the Tank Engine

Parents of today’s young children can hardly avoid the Thomas the Tank Engine franchise. That little blue engine with the Number 1 on his side is synonymous with teaching children important lessons about getting along in society. The primary theme is that each of the main characters wishes to be “a really useful engine.”

Tonight, while watching “Milkshake Muddle” on Netflix with the Dudeling, it finally hit me. We all want to feel “really useful” in some way. Read more »

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More WordPress Updates

I’m working on more updates while learning the WordPress API. For those who understand what the heck I’m talking about, I just moved over from a Windows server (hiss!boo!) to a Linux Apache server.

Fun times!

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Religion

World Religions

"What is your religion (or lack thereof)?" Image is linked to Sodahead.com post.

I’m not particularly religious these days. Sometimes I wish I was, because certain aspects of my life would be easier. Unfortunately, it would be a lie if I went back to church. I don’t know that this has anything to do with my Aspie self, but some of the ways I’ve handled it mostly likely have.

Background

I was raised in a devoutly Catholic family. We attended Mass every Read more »

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